In my initial meeting with clients, they often ask this question. It’s a valid question and arises, I think, because of the traditional stereotype of divorce and what it often looks like. Traditionally, divorce was about winning and losing, preparing for a battle in court where you strive to win with little regard for the claims of your spouse. During the process, you try to gain every possible advantage to defeat your spouse. This is a typical “win-lose” scenario! If you think about divorce in these terms, you may be concerned that a more respectful process like the collaborative divorce process may mean concessions and settling for less than what you would get if you win in court.